7 Simple Steps for Dealing with Rumination

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Overthinking is evil. Like the whispers of a devil, it pretends to help while just making the situation worse. Overthinking leads to rumination. Rumination leads to action paralysis.

Want to learn how to stop rumination?

Unfortunately, the cure for overthinking is as complex as the cause.

But follow these 7 steps and you can slowly but surely rid yourself of the poison known as overthinking and rumination.

Sidebar: One of the simplest ways to reduce rumination is to declutter your mind. This book can help you make that happen.

Step 0: Get Treatment if Depressed

Depression contributes to overthinking. If you're depressed, getting treatment will help – with your depression and with your overthinking.

A psychiatrist who tries out a number of different drugs and therapies can ensure a success rate of 60 to 80 percent.. Your options may be better than you think; your doctor may not be a good one; if you don't want to get professional help there may be possibilities you haven't explored.

Two-thirds of folks with depression don't seek treatment. I'm estimating that at least 100 of the people who are going to read this article are depressed but not seeking treatment.

Are you one of those people? You may not need anti-depressants, but why make an already hard goal even harder?

You can wait months or years for your mental health to improve on its own, or you can seek treatment. Best of all, once your depression is gone you'll feel more motivated, and so can then do all of the natural things like volunteering at church or keeping a gratitude journal.

If you'd like to avoid medication, an evidence-based therapy like ACT or CBT may help, but you'll have to wait a few months to see results.

Step 1: Understand That You Can Influence Your Emotions

There are many people who believe that their emotions are like a force of nature – mostly uncontrollable.

Does that describe you?

People who believe that their emotions are uncontrollable are more likely to suffer from overthinking.

Don't worry.

Your inability to effectively influence your emotions is a fact of your skill level, not a fact of fixed capability.

The very happy are much better than others at increasing the frequency, duration, and intensity of positive emotion and at reducing the frequency, duration, and intensity of negative emotion. Some of that is genetic, but much of it is learnable.

Most people start learning these skills from their family. How did your mother respond when you were sad? Did she encourage you to seek support? To pretend you're okay? To problem solve? To ruminate?

And what did she do herself when sad? Seek support? Drink alcohol? Complain? Vent? Distract herself?

If you lack the skills yourself you may doubt the power of emotion regulation, but consider this – according to self-reports, old people are among the happiest humans alive.

Yes. Despite being physically crippled. Despite being years away from death. Why? One promising hypothesis is that because of their life experience, they've become much better at regulating their emotions.

Emotion regulation = happiness in the face of physical disability and imminent death.

You can learn that skill without having to wait until you need a cane.

Step 2: Accept That Overthinking Won't Give You an Insight

Emotion conveys information.

Rumination doesn't help

That information is often accurate. Ignore the feeling that the person you're talking to is a creeper at your own peril. That's why it's often a good idea to listen to your emotions.

I do wish that people spent more time thinking and less talking. As an extreme introvert, I'd love it if my kind were respected rather than stigmatized.

But overthinking is a virus, corrupting that information from something valuable to something wrong.

After just a few seconds of thought, I can think of dozens of times in my life where overthinking made things worse, leading me to think worse of my personality and abilities, causing me to feel bad over and over again, and stopping me from taking action.

Step 3: Know When You're Overthinking

How can you know when you're being reflective and productive and when you're overthinking? Follow the flow chart below.

Are you overthinking? Stopping overthinking a key to stop[ping rumination

Step 4: Ignore Your Rumination Rationalizations

Each human comes born with a superpower. No, not super-intelligence and the ability to fly to the moon. The ability to rationalize.

We can make ourselves believe something that on reflection is obviously insane.

  • Just one more bite, it won't make a difference.
  • You've got time to watch one more episode, don't worry.
  • You don't have to exercise today, you can just do it tomorrow.

At the time the excuses feel legitimate but looked at from a distance they appear as ridiculous as they actually are.

When you're overthinking your brain will feed you whatever excuse it needs to get you coming back to the issue, again and again.

There's an insight to be discovered! Problem-solving that needs to get done! Now, now, now!

Those rationalizations may contain some truth, but the time to reflect and problem solve isn't when you're directed by negative emotion.

Step 5: Assert Control over Rumination

The moment that I start overthinking I work to assert control.

I acknowledge the emotions I'm feeling. I let those emotions guide my thinking. I listen to the concerns they raise. But once that's done, I yell “STOP!” in my mind.

Then I promise that once I'm thinking more clearly, I'll spend more time reflecting on and addressing those concerns. If I'm at home I do what I can to distract myself, usually by reading and listening to my favorite music. If I'm not I go back to what I was doing.

Every time that my thoughts come back to the concerns that were raised, I stay STOP again.

Two years ago it would have taken me days and dozens of STOPs to clear my mind. But because I’ve been practicing this and other related skills ever since then, my ability to regulate my emotions has improved tremendously – I'm usually calm after a few STOPs.

You don't have to follow these exact same steps, although each component exists for a reason.

The reason that I first feel the negative emotions in their entirety isn't to help process them. Catharsis is a partially discredited theory. It's because there may be some underlying concern that needs to be addressed.

The reason that I promise to spend time on the issue later is so that I have a ready answer for my rationalizations. “This concern is important! Think about it!” “Yes, I will. But later, once I'm thinking more clearly.”

The reason I say STOP over and over again is so that I can abort the negative cycle of overthinking before it gains traction.

The reason I distract myself is that distraction works.

If your mind keeps coming back to something which makes you sad or anxious, you're not going to process the emotion by diving in deeper. You're just going to make it stronger.

If something makes me mad, distracting myself from the issue doesn't cause my anger to bottle up and grow stronger. It causes it to go away. Of course, if there's an actual underlying problem that needs to be addressed, that's different. Ignoring the emotion won't make the problem go away.

More information on catharsis and venting here.

Even the Sedona Method, which claims to help with overthinking by helping you to process your emotions, may actually work through other means.

For those who aren't familiar, the Sedona Method claims that the reason negative emotions persist is that they're being resisted. To process them, they must first be felt fully.

This idea is wrong – controlled experiments have found the opposite result. Catharsis makes emotions stronger, not weaker.

But Sedona does help. Why?

Because even though the stated purpose of Sedona is to help you experience your emotions fully, it may be doing the opposite. For example, one key message is that you are not your emotions, “”I am angry” is the wrong way to look at the issue. Rather, “I am feeling angry” is more correct.”

That's the disassociation between emotion and self, something trained by mindfulness meditation, a technique which we know works in reducing overthinking.

Also, Sedona practitioners are encouraged to feel an emotion fully, and then ask themselves, “Could I let this feeling go?” By posing that question the practitioner is asserting an ability to control their emotion.

When it comes to emotions, Jedi mind tricks often work – if you believe that you can influence your emotions, you can.

Step 6: Distract Yourself

From Susan Hoeksema, the leading researcher of overthinking,

One of the simplest but most important strategies for freeing yourself from overthinking is to give your brain a rest by engaging in pleasant distractions. In my research, I have found that giving people positive distractions from their overthinking for just eight minutes is remarkably effective in lifting their moods and breaking their cycle of repetitive thought.

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Here are three ways to distract yourself:

  1. Finding and cultivating one or two distractions is more effective than flitting from one to another. Finding a distraction that helps may take some experimentation – I tried over a dozen things before I settled on my current choice.
  2. Distractions which involve concentration and activity are more effective. If your brain is completely occupied, you won't have the spare capacity to overthink.
  3. Exercise sometimes makes some people's overthinking worse, myself included. Whether this is because of misattribution or because of the cortisol that gets released, exercise doesn't work for everyone.

Step 7: How to Stop Rumination

Now that you're feeling better and thinking more clearly, you can start making progress tackling the underlying issues that will help you learn how to stop rumination.

1. Spend more time with people who DON'T overthink.

Do you have friends or family members who overthink?

There is some evidence that many forms of therapy are equally effective in treating depression and anxiety, despite how different they are.

One hypothesis as to why is that therapy in part gives the patient an opportunity to form a stable connection with someone of better mental health.

Over time, married couples adopt some of the personality characteristics of their spouse.

The friends you keep as a kid influence your academic achievement and eventual level of earnings.

What do these three things have in common? They show that how we respond to the world is informed by the company we keep. Spend time with overthinkers and you'll become one yourself.

Conversely, spend time with those who respond to emotional distress in healthier ways and you'll start to do so yourself.

Spending more time with those who don't overthink may be difficult, in which case getting a therapist can help. I recommend seeing a therapist who uses an evidence-based practice, like ACT, CBT, or MBSR.

For this step you'll have to be patient – adopting the traits of others can take time.

2. Beware of chronic stressors.

Do you exercise, eat well, get enough sunlight, and get good sleep? Are you menstruating, have you recently been sick?

Low-grade chronic stressors may be responsible for some of your overthinking.

Sometimes, the reason we feel bad is amazingly simple. It may be you are menstruating. You may not have gotten enough sleep, or been drinking too much. It may be something in your diet. Or it may be some event that is unusual and isolated but nonetheless made you feel bad— your boss was grouchy or your child flunked a test.

But instead of recognizing these simple explanations for our mood, we stare at our navels until much more dramatic and complex reasons come to mind— the demise of our marriage, the failure of our career, the poverty of our soul.

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3. Learn to recognize depression and seek help.

Are you overwhelmed with grief or sadness?

If this grief or sadness lasts for more than a few weeks, seek professional help. Everyone has times when they're sad. But for months at a time? That's a serious problem.

You may think it's better to get better the natural way, but consider that the reason you're depressed is that your life is already so unnatural.

Hunter-gatherers have a healthy diet, are extremely fit, get lots of sunlight, have many close friends, spend most of their time in pleasant socialization with others, and have few if not zero chronic stressors. Replicating that experience in the modern world is extremely difficult, if not impossible.

Also, approximately 30% of people who are depressed have what's called severe depression. Left untreated, this kind of depression can last years. Natural treatments like exercise and more time spent with loved ones have little effect.

4. Build mindful habits.

Would you like to experience less negative emotion?

If there was a button you could press which would reduce the total amount of negative emotion that you experience by 30%, would you push it?

Well, no such button has yet to be invented, but there are three activities you can engage in which have the same effect: mindfulness meditation, gratitude journaling, and yoga.

I've been meditating for over a year now and its been great. I have more awareness of and control over my thoughts, I experience less stress and anxiety, and I feel a bit more empathetic. Don't worry if you don't want to wait a year for the benefits! Most people start seeing results after just a month.

What happens if you do yoga, mindfulness meditation, and gratitude journaling? It's unlikely you'll experience a 90% reducing in negative emotion. But 50%? That's reasonable.

5. Stop comparing yourself to others.

Do you frequently compare yourself to others?

Intriguing new work by Sonja Lyubomirsky of the University of California, Riverside, shows fundamental differences in the ways happy and unhappy people use social comparison.

Unhappy people engage in social comparison a lot. They are more attuned to their status compared to others and worry more about how they are doing. And their moods are more affected by information about their status.

How they compare to others is even more important to unhappy overthinkers than how they actually performed.

For example, in one lab study, Sonja had college students try to solve difficult puzzles and then gave them feedback about how they did and how another student in the experiment did.

The unhappy students felt worse when they got an excellent evaluation but another student got an even better evaluation than they did when they got a poor evaluation but the other student got an even poorer evaluation.

In other words, the unhappy students’ opinions of themselves depended more on how they compared to other students than on how they actually performed.

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That student used to be me. I was raised to always compare myself to the best. The consequence is that I worked harder, but also that I was less happy with myself. Over time I've been able to control that tendency. How? I turned the power of social comparison on its head.

According to the experts, the idea is to stop comparing yourself to people, period. But that's needlessly hard. Just compare yourself to different people.

Instead of spending time dwelling on how I'm worse than the best, I think about how I'm better than the rest.

I'm not talking about becoming arrogant.

In any given dimension there are hundreds of millions of people that you're better than. There are hundreds of millions of people that you're prettier than, smarter than, more productive than, taller than, lighter than, and so on.

Happy people engage in social comparison as well, but instead of comparing themselves to those who are better, they compare themselves to those who are worse. (16)

Done correctly, not only can this kind of comparison make you happier, it can even make you more grateful.

Here's an example. I believe that I'm better at writing than 999 out of 1,000 people. By itself, that statement may make me more confident but at the cost of making me arrogant.

But when I think of being a better writer, I think of why. It's because I had such great teachers in college. It's because my parents encouraged me to read so much. It's because I was born in a first world country.

It's because my mom didn't mind driving me to the library once every week. It's because spell checker exists and my terrible spelling doesn't matter. It's because you folks take time out of your busy lives to leave me feedback.

All reasons to be grateful and happy.

I promise that there are important dimensions to your personality, abilities, or accomplishments where you're better than 999 out of 1,000 people. It's just that you compare yourself to the best – your friends and family and famous people on TV and the internet.

Pay more attention to the rest of the world and you'll be happier for it. Perhaps it's wrong of me to derive happiness and self-esteem from the fact that I'm a better writer than most people – I've had opportunities that they haven't.

But the human mind is a social comparison machine. I'm not so amazing that I can fight against that part of my human nature (at least not yet 😉 ).

6. Stop being a people-pleaser.

Do you try to make everyone around you happy?

Women often hang on to impossible goals in relationships, including the goal of making everyone around them happy.

If anyone is upset, even a friend , we share the pain, try to fix it, and in the meantime overthink about it. If someone gets mad at us, even a store clerk, we feel responsible and overthink about our behavior.

Fundamentally, we have to let go of the goal that all our relationships and encounters with other people will be positive, and that we will never be the source of another person’s pain. It’s just not possible, and it creates a lot of misery in our lives.

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7. Cultivate rational expectations.

Do you fantasize about being rich, having a better partner, or being beautiful?

Several psychologists have argued that the main reason people get stuck in overthinking is that they can’t let go of impossible or unhealthy goals… Jennifer Crocker of the University of Michigan calls these “contingencies of self-worth.”

We set up these contingencies that we must meet in order to feel good about ourselves— we have to achieve a certain salary level or look like the models in the fashion magazines.

The trouble comes when the contingencies, or goals, we set for ourselves lead us to engage in self-destructive behavior or are impossible to reach. Perhaps your goal for your weight is unrealistically low, yet you continue to starve yourself until you do damage to your body.

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Dreaming comes with a cost, leading to unreasonable expectations and making your present reality seem less attractive.

Cultivating gratitude will help, as will cultivating rational expectations.

The easiest way to cultivate rational expectations is to counter the base-rate fallacy. Essentially, there are two ways to estimate the probability of something (let's use my favorite example of marriage).

Let's say you've just got married and want to estimate your probability of divorce.

According to the inside-view, you drudge up all the information you think is relevant – in this case, how much you and your spouse love each other. Because the answer is likely to be, “very much”, you estimate the probability of divorce is very low.

According to the outside-view, 40% of all marriages end in divorce. So unless there's some strong reason to expect your marriage to be different from the rest, your marriage also has a 40% chance of divorce.

The same thinking can and should be used in other places of your life. According to the inside-view, you feel really motivated and you know you're smart. Therefore you will succeed. According to the outside view, most people don't become rich or super sexy.

If you have reasonable rather than super ambitious goals you may achieve less, but you'll be a lot happier along the way.

8. Be aware of the beliefs you hold about happiness.

Do you believe one of these myths of happiness? Do you know what the hedonic treadmill is?

We’ve all seen movie after movie in which the beautiful woman is in a precarious position, about to be swallowed by the dinosaur, or to be attacked by the bad guy, or to continue on in a miserable existence alone, when the handsome male star bursts upon the scene to rescue her. This is nice stuff for fantasies.

But it doesn’t happen often in real life…And we engage in the “if onlys . . .” If only I could lose a few pounds, then I could find a boyfriend . If only I could get a better job, then I’d be happy. If only I’d meet a guy . . . If only the phone would ring . . . Waiting around to be rescued from your unhappiness is guaranteed to prolong your unhappiness.

You basically have two choices: learn to like your current circumstances or change them…If you are bored in your job, rather than resolving to leave it, consider ways you might change the job to make it more challenging.

If you are bored with your lover, rather than looking around for another, examine your own behavior in the relationship to see if there are ways you could make it more exciting .

If you are dissatisfied with your family life, rather than believing another child will solve everything, try out some new rituals and activities that may bring your family closer together and into deeper relationships.

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If you believe one of the following myths, you may start overthinking when things don't go as you expect:

  • I’ll be happy when I’m married to the right person.
  • I can’t be happy when my relationship has fallen apart.
  • I'll be happy once I have kids.
  • I can't be happy when I don't have a partner.
  • I'll be happy when I find the right job.
  • I can't be happy when I'm broke.
  • I’ll be happy when I’m rich and successful.
  • I can't be happy when the best years of my life are over.
  • I'll be happy only as long as I'm healthy.

Learning about the science of happiness will help.

Other than that, the following books are great:

9. Accept that significant change takes time.

Is progress slower than expected?

Avoid quick-fix thinking. Quick-fixes do exist, but not for all problems.

Those areas where quick fixes exist we spend almost no time thinking about – when’s the last time you’ve thought about sanitation or electricity? Those areas where they don’t exist we spend the most time thinking about – our relationships, our boring work, our desire for more happiness, our slow weight loss.

It's been observed that people routinely underestimate the amount of time it will take to get something done. This even has a formal name – optimism bias and the planning fallacy.

If you find that you're not making much progress even if you're putting in a lot of effort, get help. For example, there's evidence that for most people, doing exercise is a poor method of losing weight.

The solution? Do research (quality research, like reading a well-researched book, not reading random blog posts or news articles) or get advice from an expert.

10. If you feel overwhelmed, start small.

Do you feel too overwhelmed to make a change? Do you spend more time thinking than acting?

Once you’ve got a plan for overcoming a problem, it can seem overwhelming to implement it. The sense that you must fix your problem immediately, completely, and finally may leave you feeling utterly immobilized.

Many times, by focusing on doing something small, you can break through these feelings of immobilization. Just as every dollar to a worthy cause counts, doing some small activity that could make a dent in your problems may help enormously to break the cycle of overthinking. (14)

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In the small amount of life coaching that I've done, I noticed that some folks are prone to overthinking when planning a life change. They'll go over the situation again and again. The one truth I've observed is the only way to break out of that cycle is to push forward. However, that push need not be heroic.

When I sit down to write my blog posts, I often feel so overwhelmed that I give up and go do something else. Our lizard brain isn't used to the idea of facing such complex problems.

But once I move from the abstract to the concrete, those feelings of being overwhelmed disappear. Writing just a single concrete sentence is often enough. The same can be true of your problems – you may be stuck in a pattern of learned helplessness.

The easiest way to fight back is to show your brain, “Look! With a little bit of effort I can make progress! You're wrong!”

Identify just one small action that you can take within the next week which will increase the odds that your project will succeed.

If you don't already have a plan, identify one small action that you can take that will help you get the information or resources that you need. If you feel you already have all the information and resources that you need, spend just a few minutes writing up a plan – even if it's a really bad one.

This one small action will help you overcome “analysis paralysis.” Watch the video below to learn more about analysis paralysis and the 7 actionable strategies you can use to overcome this mindset:

If you're really stuck and have money, I suggest seeking out a life-coach or finding a mentor.

The other problem you may be experiencing is unwarranted pessimism. Because of the neural circuits which overthinking activates, you may feel your situation is hopeless even when it isn't. In cases like these, you have two options. Try to form a more rational expectation yourself.

Learn the base-rate (read section 7 (do you fantasize about being rich) to see what I'm talking about). Remember your past accomplishments.

Consultants are often valuable because they can provide an outside, less-biased opinion. Asking a friend for an honest assessment of your strengths, abilities, resources, and chances of success can give you the same, although hopefully without the $200/hour charge.

Final Thoughts on Reducing Rumination

If you've been overthinking for a while now, this may be a hard habit to break. But the effort will be worth it.

The goal of reducing rumination is to maintain your mental well-being and foster a more positive mindset, as it helps break free from negative thought patterns and promotes a healthier and more constructive approach to problem-solving.

If you'd like to learn more about overthinking, here are other blogs posts to read:

Finally, if you’d like to build habits to help you reduce your rumination, then I suggest ​focusing on mindfulness and other “head-clearing” activities. This ​book can help you do all this and more.

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16 thoughts on “7 Simple Steps for Dealing with Rumination”

  1. Well, thanks to your handy flow chart, I now know that I can definitely get into overthinking mode at times. For me it’s usually when nothing’s changing — the situation isn’t getting better, and I’m not doing anything to jumpstart forward progress. It’s not a huge problem for me, but it does happen.

    I found this step particularly relevant: Accept That Overthinking Won’t Give You an Insight. I’ve certainly found myself overthinking in the hopes that I’d come up with something new from the same tired, worn material. I also like your STOP technique. I may have to try that one for myself.

    • Glad you found it helpful! It’s unfortunate, but what you described is common – there’s lots of folks who have goals or problems where the situation isn’t getting better and they’re not doing anything to jumpstart forward progress.

      You don’t actually have to use the word STOP – the concept is simply to refocus your attention, by whatever means. One friend imagines her boyfriend naked giving her a hug. Not sure the naked part is necessary, but you get the idea.

  2. I’m not prone to rumination, but I do struggle with people who are. Objectively I know they can’t just “let it go” although I don’t really understand why. So THANK YOU for giving me a straightforward step-by-step resource I can pass along. I know CBT is usually recommended for this, but I’ve noticed it’s hard to find a good mental health professional in a lot of places. I recently phoned all over the county for a friend– half the people in the directory had had their phones disconnected. I don’t know if they retired, went out of business, or got run out of town on a rail, but if I’d been the one needing help, I would have quickly given up the quest.

    • 100% agree. I’ve also had friends request help in finding mental health professionals – it can be stressful to find someone good.

      I’m sort of like you. A few years back I was prescribed steroids for my fibromyalgia. Before the steroids, I was a very calm guy. I bounced back from sadness and stress quickly. I literally didn’t understand how people could ruminate.

      The steroids did something to whack my brain out of its prior balance – perhaps the part of my brain responsible for emotion regulation was weakened, perhaps the part responsible for producing anxiety was strengthened. Whatever the case, I now ruminate occasionally. Compared to when I was very calm, I feel as though my body is now occasionally hijacked. I feel terribly sad for folks who think that’s normal or natural, and am grateful my rumination is no longer so bad.

  3. Great timing. I have caught myself ruminating for the past few weeks. I have some insecurity around a new relationship, and, when coupled with my tendency toward anxiety, I latch onto an unsolvable mystery that I go over and over in my head. This is worst at bedtime. It doesn’t rule me, but it’s quite unpleasant.

    Distraction is key!

    Once I know I’m totally inventing my own little head came, getting out of it is just a matter of finding the right distraction. Reading doesn’t work for me. Dancing to swing music, calling a friend, or hard exercise are the best ways out of that loop. I have a practice for falling asleep that works pretty well too. It’s taken years of training, but that one, falling asleep on command (literally) is a skill worth having.

    Thanks for the tips!

    • You can fall asleep on command? Wow! That’s a skill I’m sure many folks would be willing to spend thousands of dollars to acquire.

      It’s great that you’ve already been working on your anti-rumination skills. I wish you the best for your current bout!

  4. Wow, where to begin!? Aside from the content in this article which is absolutely fantastic, I can’t get over how well it’s all laid out and presented! Typically long articles like this can’t hold my attention but because you did such a great job putting it out there I was really able to read and understand it.

    • I’m glad I was able to keep your attention 🙂

      Given that nearly all of my articles are long, I’m always searching for ways to keep things interesting.

  5. Dear Amit, thank thank you so much for this post and the information. I have always been like that – well, it once helped me to survive child abuse situations or to fall asleep, but actually I am really improving on letting go the rumination which i thougt it was more than a problem of me than of other people. Thank you again!

  6. I have a double whammy, I overthink everything, and wait til the last minute on things that I shouldn’t, leaving little time to fix anything. This post and a few others are going to really help me shift my way of thinking so that more positive outcomes can become my new normal. Really glad to have found this, thank you for sharing with us.

  7. I was looking at number 7, and realized that I’m menstruating and that’s probably the reason for my funky mood today. Even though I knew that logically on some level, I was still trying to search for a ‘reason’ that I was feeling so out of sorts.

    The point you made – “But instead of recognizing these simple explanations for our mood, we stare at our navels until much more dramatic and complex reasons come to mind…” is so insightful! Instead of just accepting an underlying reason, I’m trying to come up with one. Ridiculous, but true!

    I feel much better now just recognizing why I feel the way I do and not trying to make it into something more than it is.

    • First,
      Appreciate you. ……good content

      People says that”follow your strongest desire….. U will get everything
      But I don’t know…. What’s my strongest desire
      How do I got that

      One more problem is that …
      Since childhood I can’t stick on a perticular thing
      I get bore easily with everything plz help me…

  8. Good guide! I think step 3 is crucial. It’s very hard for me to know when I’m overthinking and when I’m still right about contemplating.

    I have a hunch that it’s worth leaning towards taking action a lot more. I seem to get less and less out of the pondering thinking process, I usually KNOW what would help me, I just keep on contemplating the options etc.

    Very thin line though.

  9. OMG, if you start off with a sentence like “I’m estimating that at least 100 of the people who are going to read this article are depressed but not seeking treatment.” Of course I’m going to feel depressed 😉

    But I try not to overthink things and just keep myself busy.

    For me, this means starting a new blog when I have an idea and feel the need to scratch that itch, despite what the crowd says about being focussed.

    Focus is depressing, Creativity is not. IMHO

  10. Amit

    I really enjoyed this article. As an overthinker, one in which is embarking on a career change I can relate to this article 100%. The more I expose myself to the teachings of authors such as yourself, the more it is helping me shifting my mindset and moving forward. As an overthinker, sometimes the hardest part is to actually make a start. I will definitely try the ‘Stop’ method.
    Thank you for helping so many people. Never forget the good you are doing for so many.

  11. Amit, this article and your writing in general are overall just amazing. Sites like yours are a complete gem on the internet and all I can say is thank you for putting the work in here. It’s unfortunate that big brand sites have to pump out so much garbage – another top 10 list won’t help me, but I honestly found useful tools backed with great info here. Thank you for your efforts.


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