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Are you dating someone who constantly seeks admiration but couldn’t care less about what you feel and what your needs are?
Or maybe you are friends with someone who has an inflated sense of self-importance and does not have even the slightest empathy toward others?
If this sounds familiar, then you are probably dealing with a narcissist—one who always has the urge to control people, and who ruthlessly demands his or her needs be met.
Narcissists can be major life stressors—a source of unhappiness and depression. So, how do you deal with people who have narcissistic tendencies, or even narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)?
In this article, we have gathered 41 quotes that can help you handle a situation involving narcissist abuse. These quotes will give you some insights into how to determine who is a narcissist, and what you should do to deal with them.
First up, we have a list of quotes about narcissistic abuse. When do you know that you are dealing with a narcissist? And more importantly, how do you determine if the relationship is s toxic that you need to get out of it?
What You Will Learn
Narcissistic Relationship Abuse Quotes
“But that’s the thing about narcissists. They can try to fool you, with all their heart, but in the end, they’re just fooling themselves.” – Ellie Fox
“When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but you stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth just like you did.” – Jill Blakeway
“When we meet and fall into the gravitational pull of a narcissist, we are entering a significant life lesson that involves learning how to create boundaries, self-respect, and resilience. Through trial and error (and a lot of pain), our connection with narcissists teaches us the necessary lessons we need to become mature empaths.” – Mateo Sol
“Love doesn’t die a natural death. Love has to be killed, either by neglect or narcissism.” – Frank Salvato
“Narcissistic love is riding on the rollercoaster of disaster filled with a heart full of tears.” – Sheree Griffin
“Since narcissists deep down feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world’s fault.” – M. Scott Peck
“A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors.” – Karla Grimes
“How starved you must have been that my heart became a meal for your ego.” – Amanda Torroni
“Realize that narcissists have an addiction disorder. They are strongly addicted to feeling significant. Like any addict, they will do whatever it takes to get this feeling often. That is why they are manipulative and future fakers. They promise change, but can't deliver if it interferes with their addiction. That is why they secure back up supply.” – Shannon L. Alder
“Narcissists will destroy your life, erode your self-esteem, and do it with such stealth as to make you feel that you are the one that's letting them down.”
“A man who loves others based solely on how they make him feel, or what they do for him, is really not loving others at all — but loving only himself.” – Criss Jami
“Relationships with narcissists are held in place by the hope of a ‘someday better,’ with little evidence to support it will ever arrive.”– Ramani Durvasula
Regardless of the nature of your relationship with a narcissist, it is often difficult to deal with them in the humblest and kindest way. Everything gets a whole lot more complicated when a relationship has become toxic.
Even though you are fighting for your relationship, you have to know when it is time to let go. If the other person is draining all your energy, depleting your vigor, and consuming what little you have left for yourself, then it is probably time to let them go.
This brings us to our next set quotes, which are all about leaving a narcissist. When you finally realize that you are indeed in a toxic relationship with a narcissist, how do you convince yourself that you need to get out of it?
Leaving a Narcissist Quotes
“Strength is removing your kids from a toxic environment; not learning to live with it for the sake of the kids.”
“You can't force someone to respect you, but you can refuse to be disrespected.”
“You will never really see how toxic someone is until you breathe fresher air.”
“Stay away from people who can’t take responsibility for their actions and who make you feel bad for being angry at them when they do you wrong.”
“The truth always comes out in the end, no matter how hard anyone tries to hide it. Lies are just a temporary delay to the inevitable.”
“I didn’t leave because I stopped loving you. I left because the longer I stayed, the less I loved myself.”
“Some relationships are like broken glass. It's better to leave them alone than hurt yourself trying to put them back together.”
“When someone treats you like crap, just remember it’s because there’s something wrong with them, not you. Normal people don’t go around destroying other people’s lives.”
“Breakups hurt, but losing someone who doesn't appreciate you is actually a gain, not a loss.”
“A narcissist will say ‘get over it', because your feelings are trivial to them. If it's not about them, they're not interested.”
“It’s so nice when toxic people stop talking to you. It’s like the trash took itself out.” – Karen Salmansohn
“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.”
“You don't attract narcissists because something is wrong with you. You attract narcissists because so much is right with you.”
As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. You are your own boss, and you must live and love within your own terms and conditions.
Your life should not depend on what the other person promises to give. If that is the case, then you are only giving that person permission to hurt you unconditionally.
Leave if you must. Don’t let the fear of living alone allow the abuse to continue. You are capable. Remember that.
This brings us to our last set of quotes—how to get over a narcissist who has taken over a big part of your life. How do you finally move on once you have gathered the courage to actually let go?
Getting Over a Narcissist Quotes
“When it hurts to move on, just remember the pain you felt hanging on.”
“Maybe, the lesson we can all learn from the inner sadness of a narcissist is to see through our own fabrications, our own illusions so that we can be set free to be real once more.” – Shannon L. Alder
“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.” – Deborah Reber
“A narcissist doesn't break your heart, they break your spirit. That's why it takes so long to heal.”
“Letting go of toxic people in your life is a big step in loving yourself.” – Hussein Nishah
“If you hold on to hurt and anger with a narcissist, the children will have no normal parent. The narcissistic parent will use them as puppets, lovebomb and abandon them. You are their only hope.” – Tracy Malone
“The moment that you start to wonder if you deserve better, you do.”
“Invalidation is about dismissing your experiences, thoughts and above all your emotions. Indeed the intention is to not even allow you to have those thoughts, experiences and emotions. It’s a way of invading your head and reprogramming it. It’s psychological abuse (messing with your thoughts) and emotional abuse (messing with your feelings).” – Danu Morrigan
“Intuition – once you have had a narcissist in your life, you must develop your intuition and learn to listen to it and act accordingly.” – Tracy Malone
“Just because someone desires you, does not mean that they value you.”
“You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.’” – Joel Osteen
“A healthy relationship will never require you to sacrifice your friends, your dream, or your dignity.”
Dealing with a narcissist is tough. You must have the resilience to remain adamant in the fact of negativity and attacks.
You also need to learn how to love yourself. Staying with someone who only hurts you will do you no good—it will drain and dry you up until nothing’s left to fight for anymore.
Have you been in a relationship with a narcissist, and were you able to handle it well? We’d love to know your experience. Feel free to share your story in the comment section below.
Can you relate to any of the quotes above? If so, we’d love to know which one through the comment section as well.
Finally, if you want to use these quotes to make a lasting change to your life, then check out and recite these 57 affirmations for success.